Wouldn’t the world be easier to navigate if trust were a tangible item?
Think about it. Picture trust as an elegant, artistic vase. When you meet someone new, you let them see it. When you get to know them a little better, you let them touch it. As the friendship or relationship grows, so does your trust, and eventually you give them the vase.
When you trust someone completely, you have faith that they will not break that trust. Some may protect that vase with their lives, while others carelessly toss it in a pile.
“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough”
If you’re like me, you like to see the best in people. I am an open book, and I trust others deeply. I give out my vases left and right, and even if they just sit in a closet collecting dust, they’re not shattered. I know that makes me vulnerable, but I hope that vulnerability never comes back to haunt me.
I believe most of us start out like that; vulnerable and overly trusting. Occasionally we entrust our vases to the wrong people, and after our most prized possessions are cracked or shattered repeatedly, we stop giving them out so willingly. We learn to trust only ourselves to protect the vase.
Starting to let people see or touch that vase again can be such a challenging process, but it’s something that has to be done. A world without trust is tormenting and lonely.
Think about how many people to which you’ve given your full trust. Now, think about how many people have given you theirs. Make sure you protect your own vases just as much as you safeguard theirs. Trust is fragile, and once it’s broken it’s extremely challenging to repair.